100 Percent About Love

Often we come across posts by other people exclaiming “My dad/mum is my best friend and angel who I can totally trust and confide in!” However, not all of us are so lucky to have a close relationship with either or both parents. Some of us have estranged and disappointing relationships – a father who never really fulfilled their responsibility; a dad who constantly put us down; a mum who only speaks to you when she had something nasty to say about you; a parent who spent more time and attention with their lovers than us… the possibilities are endless. Whether the harm inflicted upon you is emotional or physical, it always takes a long time to heal. Parents are our first friends in life after all. Furthermore, since birth, as a child, you are psychologically conditioned to want to be close to your parents and win their approval. It is an instinct we are all born with for successful physical, social and emotional development. A 2013 study published in the Journal of Adolescence has shown...

Wives listen up, we need to talk. Congratulations for coming this far, you are one of the lucky ones that got him to commit to you in marriage. But guess what? Part of the reason why he married you was because he anticipated and fantasied about having great sex with you. Ladies you need to come to terms with this fact, sex is very, very important to your husband. Regardless of how often or infrequent your husband thinks or talks about sex, make no mistake, it is a vital aspect of who he is as a man. One of the winning skills any woman should strive to possess is the bedroom winning strategy. That is definitely not the only skill you’ll need but it is definitely a good one to have. When you conquer in the bedroom, it eases so much tension in your home and you get your husband’s cooperation for bigger conquest in other areas. Unfortunately, men and women don’t perceive life the same way, especially in the expression of romance and sex. Little wonder they say men are from Mars and women f...

Betrayal in dating and marriage is mostly referred to as “infidelity” or “cheating”. Infidelity or cheating is broken trust or broken loyalty. It is also the violation of emotional/sexual exclusivity in a relationship.  It therefore implies that whatever you are giving your primary loyalty to ahead of your partner is considered infidelity.   If you choose your parents, friends, time, career etc. over your spouse, you are essentially committing an act of infidelity. Emotional cheating is any relationship with other persons apart from your partner that though does not include physical sex but comprises flirting, sexual chemistry, fantasies and usually hidden from your partner. It is unhealthy because it drains energy from your primary relationship. Sexual affairs is the most destructive form of infidelity. This type of betrayal is a bit more complex. Discovering your partner has been involved in a sexual affair is more difficult to cope with. The mind sometimes cannot immed...

True love is the true definition of a perfect romance. But it’s not easy to find. Do you see these 12 signs of true love in your own relationship? By Elizabeth Arthur True love isn’t felt in a heartbeat or in a second glance. True love takes time to take shape. And contrary to popular belief, love at first sight isn’t really love at all. In fact, love at first sight is nothing but an infatuation. It’s a strong surge of romantic and cexual emotions that overwhelm you. Before you wonder what true love is all about and what the signs of true love really are, you need to understand that it’s very important to take things slow in a relationship if you want to ensure its success. When you first start dating someone or fall for someone at first sight, what you experience isn’t love. As much as you feel like you’re head over heels in love, you really aren’t. You’re just experiencing the first stage of love, a small part in the stages of love known as the infatuation stage. What is true love th...

In the intimate quarters of a romantic relationship, the reactivity between couples can be electric, the slightest jolt from one person sending the other into sparks. As emotional beings armed with complicated  attachment histories , we key off each other in complex ways. The chronic lateness of our partner can cause us to feel wounded and vengeful. The persistent interest in our whereabouts can leave us overwhelmed and irritated. These stirred responses are often tied to our past. Too often, our  actions are a manifestation of these emotional reactions, as we scold, shout, complain, stonewall, sulk, nag, demand, and reject, all the while hoping to get a different result. Most of the time, we wind up with more of the same, generating just enough push or pull to maintain a certain emotional distance from our partner. This distance may be painful but also comfortable in its familiarity. For couples who are struggling and want to break this pattern, identifying the hurtful cycles...

Conflict between a couple can often feel convoluted and layered in ways that are hard to make sense of. But, there is one dynamic that may be a bit easier to wrap our heads around. Very often, couples get into trouble when one person takes the role of a parent, and the other, the role of a child. Breaking down this dynamic can shed light on how it may be infiltrating our relationship and diminishing our love, respect, and attraction to our partner. Here, we will explore what parental and childish behavior looks like between a couple and what we can do to change it. Many of us can relate to scenarios in which one partner is being parental; that is, being instructive, superior, or even disciplinary in their style of relating. They may offer a lot of advice or assistance based on a general inclination to take care of or direct the other person. They may frequently overstep boundaries and do too much for their partner, often seeing the other person critically, as helpless or irres...

While the reasons we fall in love are often a mystery, the reasons we stay in love are far less elusive. There may be no such thing as the perfect partner, but an ideal partner can be found in someone who has developed themselves in certain ways that go beyond looks, charms and success. Although we each seek out a specific set of qualities that is uniquely meaningful to us alone, there are certain psychological characteristics both you and your partner can strive for that make the relationship much more likely for lasting success. 1. An ideal partner has grown up. One common criticism people make about their partners is that they need to “grow up.” What many of us fail to recognize is that growing up is not merely a matter of acting like an adult. To truly grow up means recognizing and resolving early childhood traumas or losses, and then understanding how these events influence our current behaviors. Therefore the ideal partner is willing to reflect on their past. They possess a matur...

Did you meet the man of your dreams and now you are looking for how to make your partner happy in a relationship? We will give you several variants on how to treat your boyfriend to make him happy. Continue reading our article to find them out! How to make your boyfriend happy in the relationship Rule number one: show your love. Your man must understand that you are crazy about him. Do not be afraid to show respect and admiration, praise him, hug him, and kiss him. Do not overdo with all this tenderness in public, but anyway, be sincere and happy together with him. Let him some private space. Any man appreciates freedom. He cannot be happy in the cage. Stop worrying about it. Do not interfere into his phone or other gadgets, stop asking for a password from the social page, do not stalk him. The more freedom you give a man, the more he wants you. Make him pleasant surprises from time to time. They don’t have to be expensive. For example, you can arrange a romantic dinner and then make a...

The dictionary offers two separate definitions for the word love. One is of a noun and the other is of a verb. The dictionary has unwittingly pinpointed the problem that many of us have with love. Often we treat love as if it were only a noun: “an entity, quality, state, action, or concept.” We forget about love being a verb: “an act, occurrence or mode of being.” The act of loving is more gratifying for both the lover and the beloved than the state of being in love. The state of being in love is passive and can easily slip from reality into a fantasy about being in love. The act of loving involves real behaviors that keep a person actively engaged in loving. Learning to love People are taught manners and how to be polite to one another, but people are not taught about love or how to be loving to one another. Learning how to love is as easy as learning manners. Learning to love involves 3 steps: acknowledge and accept, be grateful and express appreciation, and finally reciprocate with ...

It’s become more and more difficult to remain vulnerable, trusting, and open to life in this era of uncertainty, global upheaval, divorce, and disrupted family life.  Fortunately, many of us have friends and family members we can count on, or a relationship partner we can turn to as a safe haven where we can let down our guard, relax, and be ourselves.  But sometimes even here, things can get rough. When everyday stresses intrude into our protected space or an unexpected relationship problem disturbs our calm, we may begin to feel insecure and self-doubting. We may also begin to doubt our partner’s love, loyalty, and trustworthiness.  Without realizing it, we may react to these doubts by pulling away from our loved one in subtle ways. Why does trust rest on such shaky foundations? On the other hand, wouldn’t it be risky to be  too  naïve and trusting? What kinds of trust issues do couples face today that were virtually nonexistent only a decade ago? How can we b...

Do you think your boo could cherish you more?  Alternately maybe, cherish you better?  More often than not, young ladies simply figure out how to acknowledge their boyfriend for who they are.  Despite the fact that their boyfriend are in no way like the man they had always wanted.   What’s more, after some time, these young ladies trade off by and by needs and wish for their boyfriend to show the littlest sentimental signal to feel better about the relationship.  Truly, don’t be that young lady.  Instructions to make your boyfriend need and love you more   Each gentleman can possibly be the ideal boyfriend, right when he figures out how to take after the principles. What’s more, it all begins with these 10 tips on the best way to make your boyfriend need you more and 6 more tips on things you ought to abstain from doing to be needed by your boo.  Every one of us underestimate relationship in the end, regardl...

I don’t need to tell you how the media has reacted to the shocking and strangely circumstanced affairs of Jesse James. You can’t buy your weekly groceries or check your favorite online news site without hearing all about it: the Nazi paraphernalia, the tattooed, bikini clad mistresses. But if you want to know how the public has reacted to the recent exposure of this high-profile affair, just Google “poor Sandra.” And if you want to speculate just how this might affect Sandra Bullock herself or how she can cope with this humiliation, keep reading. Firstly, it’s no surprise that the reaction to this strange story would be one of empathy. Not only is Sandra Bullock the leading lady in some of the most successful films year after year and the recently crowned best actress Oscar winner, but she is also the lovable girl-next-door who makes us laugh and, on some level, we feel we know. Add this to the fact that the more personal reports about Sandra up to this point have been about her humani...

You were born  preprogrammed to bond with one very significant person—your primary caregiver, probably your mother. Like all infants, you were a bundle of emotions—intensely experiencing fear, anger, sadness, and joy. The emotional attachment that grew between you and your caregiver was the first interactive relationship of your life, and it depended upon nonverbal communication. The bonding you experienced determined how you would relate to other people throughout your life, because it established the foundation for all verbal and nonverbal communication in your future relationships. Individuals who experience confusing, frightening, or broken emotional communications during their infancy often grow into adults who have difficulty understanding their own emotions and the feelings of others. This limits their ability to build or maintain successful relationships. Attachment—the relationship between infants and their primary caregivers—is responsible for: shaping the success or fail...